Tuesday, April 17, 2012

my soapbox

I was at the grocery store the other day and a young adult girl helped me out to my bus vehicle.  She asked me how many kids I had and when I told her she asked me if that was overwhelming to me.  I told her that I was never overwhelmed with my kids, but sometimes the amount of cooking and cleaning that goes along with that number does get overwhelming.  THEN, she asked me do you have to cook everyday?  
Hmmmm.  Let me think about that one.  Clearly she wasn't homeschooled ;)
Not only do I cook everyday, but with a family this size, I cook A LOT everyday.  Just to prove my point, I took these pictures of a few things I did today.  

carrots steaming
 chicken that was cooking overnight deboned- ready to use the bones to make broth
 zucchini ready to be steamed (didn't bother to show the green beans I steamed as well)
 beans cooking
 bread dough rising
 not shown:  cookies made and eggs scrambled


So, Miss Kroger girl, YES I do have to cook everyday!

Now, for the amount of food my family eats.  Last month, we went through 50 pounds of wheat

 180 eggs

 and a lot of peanut butter  (and obviously much,much more food!)
That was the fun part of this post.  I really do have more to say about this....

I could get overwhelmed just thinking about all I do in a day.  Even though I don't always get all my cooking done before breakfast, I am responsible for all the snacks and meals for my family.  And, even when the money isn't there to buy the kinds of food I would like, it is my responsibility to make stretch what we do  have.

Here is where I am going with this.  What is God's design for the family?  His ideal plan.  (I understand that because of sin, it is not possible for every person to be able to follow that plan).  I believe that it is for the wife to stay at home as a keeper of the home, to be a help meet to her husband, and a joyful mother to her children.  Proverbs 31 outlines many of the responsibilities of the wife.  However, in our culture, being a stay at home mom is looked down on.  Also, many commercials and advertisements focus on giving people what they "deserve".  Things like, a warm hot bath, time away, nice clothes, purses, or shoes, kindness from others and a worry free life as much as possible.  Pinterest is not a bad thing (my sister Melanie has used it to bless her family -immediate AND extended- in so many ways.  Happy husband and happy baby!) but I see how many people pursue material things and are being fed the lie that we deserve nice things.  The money that people spend just to make their walls look nice, or to have a new theme for their bedroom, or a clever ($100) way to store their straightner, could be spent to help someone else or further the spread of  the Gospel!  God's plan is different.  He says to consider others as better than yourselves, overcome evil with good, don't pay back wrong for wrong, be diligent, be a hard worker, be submissive to those in authority over you, count everything as loss to know Christ.  We are to be God focused and others focused.  (I could write a whole book on how intentional you have to be in teaching that to your children.  It is not natural to be others focused!)

Sometimes I have a rotten attitude.  I play the martyr as though I am sacrificing so much for my family.  After all, what were they doing while I was cooking and cleaning?  How long had I been up before the first child came down the stairs.  But,  you know what?  I am doing what God planned for me to do.  It is my job and I need to do it for HIM.  So, the real question is, what was He (not my family) doing while I was cooking and cleaning.  Well, He was with me, helping me, encouraging me, providing for me and taking care of me.  Since I was doing it for Him, I am no longer the martyr and no longer expecting that my family be constantly praising me.  (which I am thankful for a family that really does praise me.  a lot. )  Doing it for Him changes everything.

I was disturbed recently by a young working mom who after spending a Saturday at home with her child, was reminded (she said) of why she chose not to be a stay at home mom. Little ones are hard and she was tired!  I love this girl and am not being critical.  But it reminded me of how much I want to mentor young moms and pray for teenage girls, showing them through Scripture the value that God places on mothers.  I want to let them know that being home with their children is a privilege and an amazing opportunity to raise up children that will be Godly men and women.  Our families and our country NEED that.  It is nice to help others (as the girl I mentioned does for a living) but God gave us as moms children that need us more than anyone else does.    God didn't give our kids to someone else.  They don't even belong to the babysitter, the teacher, the church....they are the responsibility of the moms and dads God gave them to.

I, today, am going to give up my bad attitude.  I am going to be thankful for the life God has given me and the health and ability that He has blessed me with to be able to perform the tasks He has for me to do.  From having to learn Latin to changing messy diapers!  I will have a smile on my face as I make cookies without the chocolate chips for Caleb, and ones with extra chocolate for the girls.  I will be glad to have steamed veggies ready for Matt's lunch and be thankful that I know my beans will make my Brianna a very happy girl (because I'll load them with onions and bacon just the way she likes it :).

Thank you Lord that you have blessed me in so many ways!


Reagan said...

OK Mrs. Currier, where do I start? How do I thank you? You may spend a lot of time in your kitchen but your influence reaches far beyond your stove. You've been my mentor, encouragement and friend. The joy you find in your husband and children literally radiates. I will be forever grateful that He brought your family here to spread the Gospel. You're a gem. I'm going to miss you!

melanie said...

One of the best posts ever! Loved all the pictures-to see ALL you do before breakfast. You are amazing! Thanks for sharing your thoughts....your soapbox. Loved reading it, and love you. Keep up the great work in everything you do. Xo.

bethany said...

that was a great post. thanks for the words of wisdom :)

ajnrileysmommy said...

i love your soap box and i love every word you said.
so glad you're my sister :)

Anonymous said...

I stumbled upon your blog and was very encouraged by your post. My husband and I have decided to homeschool our 3 children and today is kindergarten registration. I was in a bit of a panic wondering if this is what God really wanted me to do and if in fact I can do it. I don't believe in coincidences. I know God led me to your blog. Thank you for you inspiring insight.

Susanna said...

Oh my - thanks for the reminder that I need to go cook up some big batches of food!! Thankful that God provides for our families to eat, and that we've been blessed with all these little bellies to feed!!

Anonymous said...

It is not a sin for a mom/wife to "work." Proverbs 31 references the woman who:

13 ... selects wool and flax
and works with eager hands.
14 She is like the merchant ships,
bringing her food from afar.
15 She gets up while it is still night;
she provides food for her family
and portions for her female servants.
16 She considers a field and buys it;
out of her earnings she plants a vineyard.
17 She sets about her work vigorously;
her arms are strong for her tasks.
18 She sees that her trading is profitable,
and her lamp does not go out at night.

P.S. It is also not a sin if you don't home school your kids. Or to pin on pinterist. Or to enjoy nice things.

the Curriers said...

I know it's not a sin for a mom/wife to work. Also, I homeschool my kids because I love to teach, I pin on pinterest and I have lots of nice things that I enjoy :)
It's all about your heart. Hopefully you don't know me personally so that's why you misunderstood my post. Most people who know me know that I am not ugly about things like this. I have family who lives far away and I also print up my blog into a book as a record of our life. So, my point in blogging is really for my family to know what it is I am doing and so that years from now I don't forget what I did!
I have daughters who are being pressured already to have a "career". Whether they choose to or not is up to them, but I want to be sure they know that being a stay at home mom IS a career and one that God is pleased with. :)